Common in every marriage is the tendency for competition between partners due to mans’ competitive nature. Competition whether Silent(mild, unknown)or Aggressive(wild, known) is unhealthy to the survival of any home and its tendencies can never be ruled out but the ability of both parties to identify, understand and respect each other’s strength and weaknesses will curb competitive tendencies. Marriage is the coming together of dreams, visions, differences, and aspirations into one entity. It should not be a platform for rivalry and strive.
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Stimulants of competition include jealousy, criticism, growing up in a competitive family/environment and having a domineering personality. Competitive tendencies tends to be higher in same profession marriage where both partners are in same line of business, career etc than those in different line of work or businesses but some very good ways competitive tendencies can be curb is to be united, talk about each others fears, career and discuss how to be the best in your place of work. One of the strengthening factors of marriage is communication; you must discuss everything and anything. Avoid bringing the ambition of being the best into your home. I know a family whose husband has been out of pay job for a while and the wife by fate became the breadwinner, till date the family is doing well why? Because both partner decided not to allow their
career/financial differences to affect their marriage.
As the woman, you should understand that it’s your role as a wife and mother to support your husband totally not giving room for envy as every success your man attains, a large portion of the credit is giving to you.
Men are egoistic and in a situation where your man is extremely egoistic and doesn’t feel too confortable with your career advancement then wisdom must be applied to limit what you say about your career around him in order to safegaurd your marriage. As a woman you should have this understanding that anything that will make a man loses his authority and position as the head will naturally make him very uncomfortable. To the man feeling threathened, there is no need to be jealous of your wife and her accomplishment as the two of you are working towards same goal (Better marriage and finance) and, the success of your wife is your success. To the successful woman, know that you are only the boss at work as your home doesn’t need any boss, but the head structure the man (who is not a boss himself) has been put in the place of authority and you as a strong support system.
In all, there is a need for each partner to be considerate, not to over emphasize or rub in his or her success thereby giving room for competition. And also be careful because the kids are watching you and these can form their lifestyle when they eventually get married.
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